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Recently, I sat having breakfast with a friend. She was telling me about someone in her life, and how she is struggling to rebuild a relationship which as outsiders looking in, sounds to us like it has run it's course.
"She tells me that she would rather work on it, because she can't cope with so much time alone Louise!" my friend told me, "But I tell her it's all about how she looks at it.
Read moreOne of the things that I have been reminded of recently, is the grief and anxiety that we can sometimes feel when things happen in our communities, even when we ourselves are no more involved than as observers. I've talked about it before here I know — but I think it worth revisiting because it can be quite isolating when we are going through these feelings, and because at the moment things are happening which for me at least, feel very close to home.
Read moreOne of the things that I have been reflecting on this week is how we cope, or sometimes don't cope, with misunderstandings.
Read moreSomething that I have talked about in this space before I know, is our tendency to be what I call shouldistic, when we feel the need to change something in ourselves or our lives. We'll be experiencing some sort of discontent within ourselves and then come up with all kinds of expectations about how we should be able to change that feeling or situation, or what timeframe it should take for that change to happen.
Read moreSomething I have been reflecting on recently, is the part that shame can play in our lives, and the way that we can feel like it dictates our actions. To demonstrate what I mean by this, I want to give you two examples.
Read moreRecently, I talked about the impact that shame can have on us at different times. Well, I feel like I had to come back to this subject tonight, to say that you can never really look closely at the emotion of shame without it's twin showing up, which is of course guilt.
Read moreSo, picture this! It was Thursday night, and I had a phone appointment in 29 minutes! The bus was due in three. As it takes approximately 22 minutes to get home at this time of night? Look, to say that I was cutting it fine, is a slight understatement
Read moreOne of the things I have been reflecting on this week, is how difficult it can be for us to grieve the loss of someone in our lives, when we don't have the death story, and/or we haven't been a part of the usual grieving rituals, like funerals.
Read moreRecently, I have been talking about various aspects of grief; how we need the death story to make sense of loss, how we are often in mourning for people and things which those around us may not recognise as important. This week, I have been reflecting on the part that grief plays, in resilience.
Read moreA couple of weeks ago, I was reflecting on what I think are the key ingredients of connection. Well with all of the events going on around us in the world at the moment, I have been reflecting on what I think is another key ingreedient of connection, and that is our ability to ask questions.
Read moreOne of the things I have been reflecting on this week, is just what it means to be connected. Every week at the end of my posts I encourage my readers to “stay connected”, and yet at times, I think we can easily forget what the key ingredients of connection actually are.
Read moreSo, picture this! I’m lying in bed late last night and flicking through YouTube to find something which might just send me to sleep. I happened to stumble upon a Podcast by Andrew Huberman, and of course the opposite happened; I was suddenly wide awake and interested.
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Social Anxiety is something that a lot of people feel, but is not something easily talked about. It affects adults, teenagers and even young children; it is, in fact, a very common mental health condition.
Read moreRecently, I was speaking to a client about the recent death of a family member. She was talking to me about the way that different members of her family were involving themselves in the rituals after the death, and it put me in mind of something i have mentioned here before, but which we often forget as we grieve; grief can show itself in so many different ways, and yet still be grief.
Read moreSo, picture this! I’m sitting in my counselling room, with someone who has lost most of his useful vision, and a half of one leg, to diabetes. He’s 53 years old, and what’s worse? It’s all happened in the last six months.
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