One of the things that I have been reflecting on this week is how we cope, or sometimes don't cope, with misunderstandings.
Read moreOn The Subject of Shame
Something I have been reflecting on recently, is the part that shame can play in our lives, and the way that we can feel like it dictates our actions. To demonstrate what I mean by this, I want to give you two examples.
Read moreAnd then, There Was Guilt
Recently, I talked about the impact that shame can have on us at different times. Well, I feel like I had to come back to this subject tonight, to say that you can never really look closely at the emotion of shame without it's twin showing up, which is of course guilt.
Read moreAsking Questions: A Key to Connection
A couple of weeks ago, I was reflecting on what I think are the key ingredients of connection. Well with all of the events going on around us in the world at the moment, I have been reflecting on what I think is another key ingreedient of connection, and that is our ability to ask questions.
Read moreLife is Difficult
I often talk about how sometimes the steps that we think will be big, can sometimes not be as hard to take as we first thought, and how then the challenge becomes "How do I take the next step?”
Read moreSmall Steps
Sometimes it’s the small steps that we need to take, which are just as important in moving us closer to our dreams, as are those big leaps which are often a part of them too.
Read more6 Tips for Getting Your Feelings Out On Paper
If you've read my blog on sleep issues, you might have already guessed something about me, and that is — paper has been a great and trusted friend of mine for many years.
In fact, I often refer to it as "Paper the Ever-patient" because whether I am using the real McCoy in the shape of a notepad, or whether it's on a tablet or phone, it's usually something I can access easily. This friendship has been around since I was a teenager, and I have found that even in the most difficult times, if I can write, I can often get some clarity and restore some inner peace.
So, I thought I'd share with you a few of the ways in which I use paper, on the off chance that they could be worth investigating for yourself.
Read moreDealing with Flash Forwards
When you have been diagnosed with a chronic illness like MS, or a disability where your physical or cognitive abilities are challenged, I find that one of the things appearing in my counselling room, is the fear of how life as you know it now, is going to change in the future.
Read moreFun or Focus
Yesterday, I was sitting with a young client who finds it hard to get out of bed in the morning. She said to me "any excuse — it might be just that it's cold — and I'm back to bed… Life should be more than this!"
Now I know that for some people it's more of a problem than for others, and that there can be many reasons for feeling like this, but I'm sure it's a feeling that we can all relate to.
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